Right way to bring up a kid!!!

Currently travelling in the train and heading towards Kolkata, Sukato has two couples with their kids in and around his seat. One of them is Marwadi and the another is Bengali. The Marwadi kid is pampered, happy and obidient. His mother does not do too much for him. All that I saw is she feeds him in time, listens to him non understandable language and loves him unconditionally!!!!

Now coming to the Bengali couple, they too love their daughter and feed her in time, but then there are unnecessary warnings given by them to their 2-3 year kid about do not do this or do not do that!!!! How irritating. The lady is just too much as a wife and a mother, the poor husband is managing between his arrogant wife and his cute daughter.

This made him ponder on the way the Bengali couples bring up their kids. Sukanto Bhattacharya is definitely a Bengali and hence he feels he can a level of understanding where he can comment on their upbringing mode. He does not know how the other community people bring up their child, however he has seen a couple of cases of his non bengali colleagues and friends where they do not do overtly for their kid and things are perfectly fine there!!!

As a kid Sukanto (a bengali kid) got ample love and care from parents. He was brought up rightfully which his parents explaining him right from the time he went up growing about what is right and what is wrong, which way he should follow and which he should not, who is the right person to make friend who is not, which program to watch in TV and which not. He was not allowed to see movies when he was a kid, he was not allowed to watch his favorite program in TV, there was no cable connection in Sukanto's house as his parents thought it might mislead their kid and he will end up being nothing!!!! Inspite of all these Sukanto went on making some useless friends, did everything he can do under his restricting parents without getting noticed and tried to live a free life under the strict scrutiny of his parents. No he never felt like his parents are not caring or loving, rather he always felt that his parents are overtly loving and caring - to the extent which makes him feel uncomfortable.

Sukanto is a grown up man now, he works in a big MNC, earns a good salary, and loves to live his life in his own way. But one syndrome that he suffers is that - he is never been able to make proper decisions in life!!!! Yes he stands by all this decisions mostly bad and only a few good ones but he suffers and gets nervous everytime he has to make a decision. His parents stay with him and still at some points he feels they are getting overtly caring for him and feels uneasy.

Sukanto is single and has made a firm decision - he will never stop his kid from what he/she wants to do. Neither will he actually pamper his kid nor will he actually let him/her go out of his hand. He has seen the upbringing of kids in many non Bengali families and in some cases he is very influenced the way they bring up their kids. Sukanto feels this is the ideal way let the child go in a direction he/she wants to go and then allow him/her to walk or run in that direction till he sees his child is running into a danger. Life will show his kid many miseries and he will not protect him/her overtly from them rather will always help him/her in protecting himself/herself and making a wise decision. He will never let him/her become like his/her would be father i.e. Sukanto is.

With this thought he gets happy and at the same time feels bad when he looks around the troublesome couple and their endangered kid. He feels pity, sigh, he cannot do anything about it!!!

Aman ki Asha

एक ही है यह ज़मीन और एक ही यह राह है,

एक ही मंजिल है अपनी और एक दिल की चाह है,

सूरज की रौशनी भी है एक एक ही पेड़ों की छांव,

एक से मुरख हैं हम सो बंट गए हैं दोनों गाँव |

एक ही हैं खून जो दोनों रगों में बह रही,

एक ही आवाज़ जो दोनों से अब यह कह रही,

एक सी खुशबु है मिटटी में हवा भी एक है,

फूलों की खुशबु भी है एक फिर हम ही क्यूँ अनेक हैं?

कश्मीर पर क्यूँ लड़ते हो, हिंदुस्तान तुम्हे अपना कहे,

मिलकर करें कुछ नेक हम, हर आँखों में सपना रहे|

दे मिटा यह फासले लग जाएँ हम तुम यूँ गले,

बिछड़े हुए दो भाई हैं मन में न कोई द्वेष पले,

लाहौर से चली ट्रेन को दिलों की पटरी पे उतार लो,

अमृतसर जैसे ही छुए बस प्यार दो और प्यार लो,

मिलकर मनाये ईद हम, लोहड़ी में हर गाँव सजे,

आज़ादी का जशन संग मनाएं मन में राग ऐसा बजे |

ख़त्म करो जेहादी जंग, अब अमन ही अपना नारा हो,

अमन की आशा भरपूर है, भुलादे ग़म यह सारा जो,

एक हाथ दो एक हाथ लो, लहराओ झंडे साथ साथ,

भाईचारा को दे बढ़ावा, बंद करो यह रक्तपात |

हिन्दू मुस्लिम हैं भाई सारे आओ मिलके यह कहें,

हम एक थे, हम एक हैं और हमेशा एक ही रहें |

दुनिया को दिखला दें के मिल सकते हैं जो हुए थे अलग,

प्रान्तों पर झगड़ना बंद कर, दो देशों को बनायें स्वर्ग !!!

Anjane anchahe soch!!!!

Jeevan me kyun yun pal hota hai,

Jab aaj me hamara kal hota hai,

Lagta hai fir se pyaar karun main,

Man me bas prem ghazal hota hai!!!

Beete pal bhi kabhi yaad aate hain,

Chahat ki aag sulag jate hain,

Lagta hai fir kuchh vaade karun main,

Tanhayian dil ko yun satate hain!!!

Par koi kahin hai na koi aisa,

Apna kehne ke layak jaisa,

Jispe kar nichhawar dil main,

Magan firun majnu k jaisa!!!

In palon me khatra hota hai,

Jab dil khud sapno me khota hai,

Bhulke aaj ko kal ki soche,

Fir akelepan ka aansu rota hai!!!

Do pal baad fir hokar sthir main,

Apne aaj k karm shivir me,

Sochta hun yeh soch kyun aayi?

Uttar rahit ho jaun ashthir main!!!

Khush hun main apne aaj ko pakar,

Beete achchhe pal sang me lakar,

Jeevan behti nischit dhara me,

Fir kyun dhundhun wo dhai aakhar?

Par kuchh to kahin chahat hoti hai,

Ek anjaani si aahat hoti hai,

Waqt se pehle kya mila kise hai,

Is soch me basi rahat hoti hai,

Haan isi me basi rahat hoti hai!!!

Akela sa Tanha sa!!!

Akela akela sa mujhko kyun lage yun,

Suna suna koi khwab sa jage kyun,

Kaisi hoti hai tanha jindagi,

Dooriyon ne jaise ki hai dillagi,

Jag me koi bhi nahi mujhko dikhe jyun!!!

Kabhi hulchul bhari jindagi ko yaad kar,

Kabhi chalti bheed ko khud hi udaas kar,

Kis ore main chalta chalun kahan?

Kya manjil meri hai suni viraniyan?

Soch bhi thak gayi angdaayion ko bhar!!

She is a woman!!!

A Woman to me is decisive, she knows what is wrong n she knows how to forgive,

A woman to me is honest, she is the force of your life that propels you to give your best,

A woman is who is loving and caring to the core, she demands respect from your - you should love her even more!!!

A woman is independent though she binds a family, u r like the restless bird who seeks shelter and she is the tree!!!

A woman is new she is as fresh as a dew; a woman is divine a woman is you!!!

Chakit Hua, Stambhit hua

Stambhit hua, kampit hua,

Tere baton ko sun stabhd main,

Jawab bin nishabd main

Haan aaj fir chintit hua!!!!

Kya chaha aur kya paaya hun,

Kyun na chala dhadkahon ko sun,

Majboor hua kis soch me,

Kismat hai kiske daboch me?

Kyun jindagi yun beh rahi?

Na kuch wo mujhse keh rahi,

Khamoshi hai sannata hai,

Chintan ka chubhta kaanta hai

Kis or chalna hai mujhe?

Andher hai ya hai diye bujhe?

Kya pragati ki yehi raah hai?

Ya badli hui meri chah hai?

Jis mod par main hun khada,

Jane kitne mushkilon se hun lada,,

Kya chal sakun sang na pata,

Par samajhna na ise meri khata.

Adhikar tujhpe bhi hai kahan,

Jiska suna sa hai jahan,

Khone ka dar kabhi tha nahi,

Pane ki aadat bhi ab hai kahan!!!

Chakit hua, Chanchal hua,

Adbhut tere in khayalon se,

Uttar rahit sawalon se,

Haan aaj fir chintit hua!!

Abhi and Aditi - Part 1

Abhi had only thought of having fun with Aditi. He was very sure about the same when he left to meet Aditi for the first time. Confident about himself he knew he only had interest in getting physical with this girl and then move ahead in life.

Then they met. And then they met again. And then they kept on meeting again and again and again and again. With every meeting Abhi started admiring Aditi. She is a nice girl, good natured, pretty, rational, quirky and had a good heart. He started enjoying his time with her. A few weeks later, one day deeply imbibed in the good memories of time spend with Aditi, gradually he starts realizing that he can no more think of raw sex whenever Aditi comes to his mind. Surprised with this realization he tries to think what all would love to do with Aditi. Yes he could think of laughing with her, he could think of being with her as if there is no tomorrow, he could think of caring for her and listening to her endless words, he could think of hugging her, he could think of giving a peck on her forehead, yeah he could also think of kissing her but somehow his “use and throw” strategy he felt he will never be able to implement on this girl. Suddenly the fine line of difference between making love and having sex pops up in his mind and he starts understanding the differences between these terms. Yeah a sense of guilt does come to him for his initial thoughts about Aditi but at the same time he gets happy because of the respect that he has now developed for Aditi.

Abhi gets little confused why did this kind of change in this way of thinking happen gradually and whether this is love!!! He tries to ponder but a tired day does not permit him to think more. He closes his sleepy eyes and prays to god to imbibed into some good dreams of togetherness of him and Aditi.